#4 The Man Trap

 Looking for a Rescue

There is a common trap many single mothers fall into, often without realizing it.

The belief is this: that another man will fix the crisis of single motherhood.

Sometimes it’s framed as doing it, “for the kids.” Sometimes it’s about needing help, stability, or relief.
Sometimes it’s about exhaustion and wanting to share the load.

Those feelings are understandable. Unfortunately, relationships entered to solve a crisis often feel different from relationships built on health.

When a man is expected to rescue a situation—financially, emotionally, or practically—there is pressure. It can lead to rushed decisions, ignored red flags, or settling for less than safety and peace, for you and for him. Even the children could be pressured to develop a relationship with a new father based on need. This doesn’t mean partnership is bad. It means timing and motive matter.

Before adding another adult into your life—or your children’s lives—it’s important to first build stability, safety, and self-support as much as possible. So, if that man leaves, your foundation is still in place. Besides, a relationship should be an addition, not a solution.

No person can replace rest, healing, or wise structure. No relationship should be asked to carry extra stress or pressure it was never meant to hold.

Having friends are nice. It's also good to give your children the blessing of having your attention.

Put the man pot on the back burner —on simmer. 💛